BariatricMan
See how gastric sleeve surgery in 2014 helped me lose lots of weight rapidly and made my life great once again. 
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MY LIFE TODAY - A CHANGED MAN

How has gastric surgery changed my life and what's the reaction been from others?

For those people who have known me during the last 20 years the change in the way I look and the way I am is hard to comprehend as such a huge weight loss has resulted in me becoming a visibly different man.   The reaction of people I haven't seen for a while is usually the best as they are the most complimentary and tell me how amazing I look, or that I look healthier, younger and even taller.   People I see more ofter tend to be more reserved in terms of nice things to say, now whether this because they are familiar they are uncomfortable dishing out compliments or in some instances they are envious, heaven knows.   To date I have had a range of things said to me from, "Did you do this just so you could look better", to "Losing weight through surgery is cheating, its not normal, and I bet you'll put all the weight back on".   The latter was said with relish almost as if that person wanted me to fail and go back to the morbidly obsese person I was.   Even though I don't suffer fools gladly thankfully I am mature enough not to let snide comments worry me, and I know when someone is less than complimentary it is because I am doing something right, so it motivates me to keep doing what I'm doing.

Whilst I am still the loving son, husband, father and grandfather I was before the surgery I am now not just a skinnier version of my former self, but also a happier, healthier and more confident person, so why is that?   I believe it is a number of things that contribute to my state of mind and well being and I'd like to share these with you, as hopefully these are things that affect you too should you choose to have gastric surgery and change your life. 


Health
 
Regardless of what others think my primary reason for having gastric surgery was to stave off illness and disease and improve my health and hopefully prolong my life so that I can spend more time with my family, especially my wife, children and grandchildren.    Like too many people I have prioritised the pursuit of material wealth and a more comfortable lifestyle over my own well being.   Focusing on my work and neglecting myself resulted in my being grossly overweight and teetering on the brink of diabetes, stroke and cancer which is now being linked to morbid obesity.   Having lost my father to cancer, seen a younger brother suffer a stroke which has changed his life and not in a good way, and with a mother with late onset diabetes I still ignored my own health and my own obesity issues.   
 
My own GP and others have told me that my gastric surgery and big weight loss have lessened the chances of diabetes, stroke and hopefully cancer and whilst it is not a magic cure to all illnesses hopefully reducing the chances of these three alone can only be a good thing.   The fact that I am currently taking no medication for high blood pressure, raised cholesterol or even antacids for heartburn and reflux as I was over a year ago, and this is in itself a testament to the improvement in my health.   As a man in his 50's I made the decision to continue to take one dispersible asprin a day as I have read lots about the benefits of doing this regardless of obesity.  Furthermore I decided to take a glucosamine tablet each day to help my joints as I am now far more physically active, and one chewable multi-vitamin, and no serious medicines or drugs.
 
With my big "fat" weight loss has come a big reduction in my Body Mass Index (BMI) which is a better way than simple weight loss to determine how healthy you are.    My BMI which is a correlation between height and weight was 53.3 before my surgery, this classified me as Morbidly Obese, ie., at risk of death as a result of my weight.  Since my weight loss over the last 30 months my BMI has reduced to around 31.3 which means that whilst I am classified as Obese I am actually borderline Overweight, something I hope to move to in the next few months - although I am now adding weight not as fat but muscle which is causing my BMI to increase!  In simple terms I am still heavier than I should be but I am no longer at a higher risk of death simply by being too heavy.   Interestingly I was told by my GP that very few people have a Normal BMI, even Olympic athletes have an Overweight BMI as weight isn't just down to fat but also muscle.  In my case I know it is more to do with fat I am still carrying some but I am building muscle through my fitness regime, so having an Overweight BMI will be a major achievement for me and a real indicator that my health has improved. 
 
 
Fitness
 
I remember that the day after my 52nd birthday in July 2014 I visited a client in Liverpool whose offices were close to the Pierhead, and as there was no car parking nearby I had to park my car 1Km away in a public car park and walk to their offices carrying my laptop bag.   By the time I reached their offices and had gone up the stone steps and taken the lift to the 1st floor my heart was pounding, I was breathing  heavily, I was sweating profusely and  I had a pain in my lower back. Clearly I must have looked a mess as even the client I was meeting with asked me if I was alright, and I laughed it off by suggesting that I must have over done it on my birthday the day before.   The fact of the matter is that dragging my 24+ Stone frame a mere 1Km during a 20 minute walk had pretty much wiped me out.    The reason I recall this incident so vividly is that some 10 months later approximately 8 months after my gastric surgery I had to go to see the same client in Liverpool but this time I parked up and my now 16½ Stone frame bounded up the stone steps and up the stairs instead of the lift to their door.   My client was unaware I was having surgery and couldn't believe the transformation.   Yes, he did ask me if I was alright and whether I had been unwell, as my facial appearance was quite gaunt since the last time he had seen me.  Over a coffee I explained to him that I had had gastric surgery and how the walk from the car park had now taken me 10 minutes and I was not sweating, panting or aching.   This one little episode proved how much my fitness had increased during the last 8 months as my weight decreased.
 
I mentioned previously that to help my digestion I started walking after dinner and how my walking around the house progressed to 1Km walks and then 5Km walks.   Approximately 12 months after my surgery and with a 10 Stone weight loss my after dinner walks had increased to 7Km and some 16 months post surgery I'd walk 8-10Km+ per day.    For me, walking gets me out of the house into the fresh air and gets the blood pumping, what is more it gives me time to clear my head and think, so it is a great way to de-stress at the end of a hectic day.   Unlike going to the gym, walking is not something I see as a chore and I view as therapeutic.   I should say at this time that I do need to strap up my knees and ankles and have invested in some proper walking shoes, Scarpa Mojito GTX in order to avoid blisters and foot pain.   I have been asked why I don't jog and it is because I know I have weak knees from over playing squash at university and then in later life from carrying all that extra weight.   So my advice to anyone looking at physical activity after surgery is find an activity that you enjoy and don't be forced into doing something you are going to later regret doing as it  might harm you physically.  Some 30 months after surgery I have now evolved to running as opposed to walking and whilst its more of a jogging pace than a sprint, I am running 10Km at least 3 times a week.  I have invested in a pair of running shoes that minimise impact on my knees and ankles.  They cost around £160 but the really helpful staff at Sweatshop a national chain of running stores in the UK put me on a treadmill, photographed and videoed my running and gave me a choice of some 6 running shoes with moulded insoles.  I choose a pair of Brooks Ghost 9's they are really comfortable and worth every penny as they have helped me run without any impact injuries or blisters.
 
Before I had my surgery I had toyed with the idea of buying a cycle in order to get fit but when I went to the cycle store and climbed onto a bike I felt very ill at ease and decided not to pursue the idea.   Having undergone a significant weight loss I decided to revisit the idea and ended up buying a Subway 2 Hybrid Cycle.   So some 35 years after I last climbed on board a bike whilst wearing a school uniform I hasten to add, I was once again on my bike, and I couldn't believe how much I enjoyed it.   I am lucky in that locally there is the Greenwheel Cycle Network which allows me to cycle off road around my city and through some wonderful open spaces and countryside too.   A bit like my walking my cycling is also a solo activity, maybe I prefer my own company and am less of a club type person, but again if you need help find a local club to join be it for walking or cycling.   I currently cycle at weekends usually on Sunday morning when the rest of the world is still asleep, and I cycle around 30-35Km during a couple of hours.
 
I am often asked the question, "Why didn't you just do all this walking and cycling beforehand, it would have saved you needing the surgery?"  The simple answer is when I was grossly overweight I was unable to walk a few yards without feeling pain and discomfort and cycling was not even on the cards.   Basically the combination of losing a lot of weight in a short space of time and the associated energy boost enables me to walk and cycle, a fitness regime I actually like doing.
 
One final point about fitness that helped me and might help you is smartphone apps.  Definitely use these as they were and still are great motivators for me and allow me to monitor my daily activity to the point where if I haven't done enough they remind me and if I have gone over my pre-set target they give me fanfare and a pat on the back!   I have an iPhone and found the following apps useful, and chances are they are on Android phones too;   Pacer is a great app for walkers and runners as it uses the iPhones motion sensor to track the number of footsteps I take like a pedometer.   I also use Nike+ Fuel which is Nikes activity monitor and it has a unique way of congratulating over achievement and hitting your target.  Other worthwhile apps include;  Runtastic, MapMyFitness and Apple Health.   A great all in one health and activity monitoring app which also links into heart rate, sleep monitors and diet is Argus.  More recently I purchased a Fitbit which I wear on my wrist and this literally picks up every step I take and monitors my sleep including sleep quality too.   I would strongly advise getting some kind of app or monitor to help and most of these will allow you to connect to friends so you can encourage one another to do more or play catch up if you are slacking.
 
 
Stress
 
It is well documented that obesity is a killer possibly because it is very visible, stress on the other hand probably kills as many people but it is far less obvious, effectively it is a hidden killer.    I wouldn't for one moment claim that losing weight has removed all the stress in my life but in my case my obesity and poor health was a major cause of my stress whether I choose to admit it or not.    Knowing everyday that I had a higher than usual risk of stroke or getting diabetes in itself was causing me stress and  what is more even the smallest pain in my upper body would lead to huge anxiety, even if it was a strain or muscle pull from stretching.    Sadly I would often combat stress by cmfort eating which exacerbated the problem making it a vicious cycle.
 
My weight loss and increased physical activity through walking and cycling has definitely helped me reduce my stress levels.   For me going for a long walk around 7pm or 8pm each night is a great way of clearing  my head and thinking happier thoughts.   As someone who loves music plugging in my headphones and hitting the road helps me unwind and break the habit of  the last 20 years where I would simply eat and sit in front of the television.   My longer runs and walks have seen me listening to audiobooks so I am exercising my mind and body at the same time, a double whammy.
 
In recent times I have a greater sense of well being and happiness which is not something I had banked on when I signed up for the surgery.   I guess this is as a result of losing weight, being healthier, more active and generally more comfortable in my "new skin".
 
 
Sleep
 
There are lots of sayings about not going to bed on an arguement, or if you are stressed or if you have just eaten, and before my surgery I would do all three which is probably why I slept poorly and would get around 2-3 hours of uninterrupted sleep per night if I was lucky.   I would regularly get up at night with reflux or heartburn as my food hadn't been digested properly, even if I had eaten quite early.  I would therefore end up having to take a swig of an antacid like Gaviscon or try to sleep sitting upright in bed with a couple of pillows behind me.    There were also a couple of trips to the toilet to urinate, even though I wasn't drinking anywhere near my daily quota of water.   Poor quality of sleep manifested itself in the form of my struggling to get out of bed in the morning, low motivation due to a lack of energy and lethargy mid way through the day as I would start to yawn and fall asleep in the office and I hate to say it even when I was driving, so much so that I would have to pull over and take a nap or find a rest stop for a cup of tea.    Poor sleep would also make me irritable with others especially my family and a lack of patience meant I had a short fuse, which was not great for my wife, children or indeed anyone who I felt was getting on the wrong side of me.
 
With my post surgery weight loss has come a 100% improvement in my sleep, as I now get 6-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep, and it is quality sleep.    The reason I know it is quality sleep is because apps on my iPhone and my Fitbit monitor my sleep.  Using the iPhone's motion sensor the Azumio Sleep Time app  picks up on body movement at night as the phone sits next to my pillow when I sleep.   Basically the deeper my sleep the less my body moves and so I now regularly get 3-4 hours of deep sleep or REM sleep (this is deep sleep during which time people will dream).   I regularly have 2-3 hours of light sleep during which time I might turn or move in bed, and far less awake time which is what I used to do a lot of previously.    Incidentally the Fitbit uses similar motion sensors and as the Fitbit is worn on the wrist it is less intrusive than a phone next to the pillow.   It is fair to say both technologies work as the sleep results from both Sleep Time and Fitbit are pretty much the same.
 
I am sure the small amount of food I eat and the evening walks which leave me tired and ready for a long hot bath before bed all contribute to my improved sleep pattern.   Gone are the nights when I would toss and turn or wake up with heartburn or have to make trips to the toilet, in fact I now go to the toilet before I go to bed and then don't go again until the morning.   I know for a fact that my renewed levels of energy are in some way related to the quality and quantity of sleep I now get, and  I am mentally and physically more active because I am better rested.  
 
Improved sleep like reduced stress and the boost in energy levels wasn't something anyone including my medical advisors made me aware of.   This might be because it isn't something that they can guarantee and I am sure the surgery will affect different people differently.   I personally have seen a link between weight loss and all of these things and am sure that anyone losing this level of weight will get these same benefits to a greater or lesser extent.   With that said there are still other personal and lifestyle benefits I hadn't banked on, but I now enjoy, as you will see below.
 
 
Relationship 
 
Without sounding trite my weight loss and health changes have also helped my relationship with my family.   My wife and children have noticed and commented on the fact that I am now involved in more family related activities and less inclined to lock myself away on my own with my laptop as I used to.   As I enjoy walking and  have seen the health benefits I  have roped my wife into walking with me and we go for regular Sunday morning walks at a local country park.   This gives us a couple of hours together away from the house, the kids and domestic chores, when we can just walk and talk freely.   We both look forward to our country walking as its our time together which is something we previously had too little of. 
 
On a more personal level my weight loss and fitness  has also improved our physical relationship too.   Clearly when I was almost 25+ Stone not only was I too tired at the end of the day but sex isn't particularly easy or enjoyable as a couple when one of you is grossly overweight.   Joking aside the weight loss has bought my wife and I closer together  and once again this wasn't something anyone told me about and it came as another added bonus.   Gone is the tiredness, the excuses and the embarrasment and an increase in my libido and desire to be intimate more often. 
 
 
Appearance
 
As I have eluded to previously the main reason for my having gastric surgery was to improve my poor health and prevent future more severe illness.   I know from dieting in the past that when I lost weight even small amounts that my appearance would alter and people would notice and say that I looked better.  So it goes without saying that in losing a huge amount of weight has dramatically affected my appearance.   Not only have I lost the big belly and backside but the reduction in size has been right across my body, even my face is no longer that of a  fat man, or so I'm told.    I am sure if you look at the before and after photographs in the photo gallery on this website you will see exactly what I mean.
 
I hate the idea of "body shaming" and would never criticize someone based on their size, age, religion or race as I have suffered a number of these prejudices and judgements first hand over the years.   We live in a world where body shape and size  does matter and can affect the way others perceive us and this perception can affect our daily lives and even our careers.   People, particularly slim or skinny people who have never been overweight view those who are overweight as lazy or slovenly, as lacking will power and possibly even unreliable.    I know for a fact when I was hugely overweight I was embarrased by my appearance and wanted to hide it by wearing big baggy clothes.  I would seldom go out in public without a coat or jacket as removing my jacket would show shirt buttons straining under the pressure of a distended stomach that wanted to break free.   At my heaviest I would take a 4XL in respect of shirts and tops and my trousers had a 52 inch waist.   These were not particularly fashionable clothes as lets face it how do you make clothes of this size stylish or indeed smart?   Worse still I would end up paying a premium for these dreadful fashion faux pas as specialist shops can charge more for clothes that are not readily available on the high street.   The fact that I can now walk into any shop on the high street and buy clothes off the peg as I now fit into a M size shirt and t-shirt and trousers with a 36 inch waist.    What is more my new wardrobe is comprised of fashionable clothing including skinny jeans that my children bought for me, and I now no longer need to cover up with baggy coats and jackets.  
 
I do not consider myself narcissistic especially since I was blessed with a face for radio - LOL!   With that said I do now take pride in the way I look today and am pleased when I receive compliments from friends, family, work colleagues and even strangers.     
 
 
Self esteem & sense of worth
 
Looking better has also had the added bonus of making me feel better I genuinely have a greater sense of worth and self esteem.   I have never been a shy or insecure man but I have over the years felt embarassed about my body image and the way I looked, and what others thought of me, even though I chose not to admit it in public.    As I have said before compliments are wonderful especially if you are not used to receiving compliments about appearance, health and having a happier disposition.
 
I am probably my own biggest critic and so when I say that at the age of 54 I now look and feel better than I did  when I was 35 years of age , this best sums up how I feel about my gastric surgery and the changes in my life. 
 
 
My physical challenges - pushing myself to do more
 
In the last 36 months I have realised that my gastric surgery is not the be all and end all, to my weight and health and whilst I have lost over 10 Stone and can only physically eat small quantities of food I have seen my appetite increase over the months alongside my energy levels.   As I presently weigh 95Kg or 210lbs (15St), I have put weight on and this because I have added muscle particularly to my legs with all my running.   I would like to lose a further 20lbs if possible during 2018, but am not precious about this.   I am also mindful that my weight could once again start to rise especially if I was to stop or reduce my physical activities, and go back to my old couch potato ways.    I am therefore determined not to regress and return to my old sedentary lifestyle and if my challenge post surgery during 2015 was to lose 10 Stone then contine with more physical challenges in 2016.   I did during 2015 participate in a number of charity events including; Shine 25Km Megacycle 2015, East Anglia Air Ambulance 15Km Ride For Your Lives 2015 , Sue Ryder 10Km Starlight Hike 2015  and  Cruse Bereavement Care 10Km Memory Walk 2015. 
 
My main challenge in 2016 was to climb Mount Kilimanjaro, the highest mountain in Africa at a height of 5,895m.   This is something I did at New Year 2016. It didn't quite go to plan as I almost died but  I wanted to do this not only to test myself and push my "new body" to the limit, which I did  but also to raise money for charity to help others - I raised £5,600 for Sue Ryder.   This was a serious challenge undertaken by many but only completed by a small number and had it not been for illness I might have succeeded, but getting 3/4 way up and down with effectively one lung working is something I am proud of.   I believe my training and acclimatization walking locally and climbing Snowdon beforehand helped me get as far as I did.
 
I had such a blast doing a number of charity bikes and walks in my own home town last year, I will be looking to do the same again this year.  Details of how to sponsor me for all the events I will be participating in can be found on this site.

For 2017 I set myself a number of charity challenges the main one was running the Great Eastern Run Half Marathon in October, which I successfully completed in 3 hours 15 seconds and raised £500 for Cancer Research (UK) in the process.  In September I also climbed Scarfell Pike for Sikh ChannelAid and The Make A Wish Foundation raising £200, and in May 2017 my work colleagues at Oracle and I raised over £1000 for charities doing  Tough Mudder - 10 mile assault course with mud, ice water, obstacles and electrocution for charity.

I challenged myself for 2018 to push myself even further in respect of my running than I had in 2017, and so I decided I'd try to run a full marathon of 26.2 miles building on my completion of a 1/2 marathon in 2017.  Clearly one race in a full 12 months didn't sound like enough so I decided I'd try running a 1/4, 1/2 and 1 Full Marathon - Del Singh's 2018 QHF Marathon Challenge.  In doing this challenge I would look to raise money for a smaller charity that gets less coverage than the big charities I had previously raised money for.  I was pleased to find a locally based charity called HEAL - Health and Education for All ( www.healcharity.org) which cares for orphan children in India and relies solely on volunteers as opposed to highly paid executives.  I thought long and hard about which marathons I should look to run and give myself the maximum time for training.  I finally selected the fllowing options;

  • Brighton - 1/4 Marathon - 15th April 2018
  • Loch Ness - Full Marathon - 23rd September 2018
  • Peterborough - 1/2 Marathon - 14th October 2018

With the plan in place then came the hard bit the gruelling training schedule from 1st January 2018 until 14th October when I'd run the last of my 3 marathons.  To aid my training and get the buzz once again of competitive road racing I entered the Cancer Research UK 10Km Winter Run which took place on 4th February.  This was a highly enjoyable event with over 20,000 people running on the streets of London passed iconic landmarks.   It was the perfect warm up for my QHF Marathon Challenge which kicked off in Brighton in April.  I was delighted to be joined in Brighton by my wonderful friend Fiona who have known since we were both at Hatfield Polytechnic some 36 years ago.  It was her first 10km (6.5 mile) run and she ran a great race that saw us finish together in around 1 hour 25 minutes. 

My next marathon in 6 months time would be a full 26.2 mile marathon in Loch Ness, so I started to up my training with twice weekly 8-10 mile runs.  I started to push myself and run further in the following months, although this was tough because of the exceptionally hot summer in 2018.  I did my first long training run of 18 miles in June followed by 20.2 miles in July and finally 22 mile run in August.    Thankfully I avoided injury and felt I was ready to do my first marathon in a projected time of around 6 hours 50 minutes.  Arriving in Inverness with my support team - my lovely wife Jas ahead of the Loch Ness Marathon I was both excited and nervous.   A very early start on marathon day saw 4000 runners being ferried by coach 26.2 miles out of Inverness and then tasked with running back into town.  The weather at first seemed fine in that it was cool and dry but throughout the day we were hit with numerous rain showers which made running not so easy or fun.  Also like many runners I had severely underestimated the course elevation which would see us running from around 1148ft to 648ft.  As all my training had been done on the flat roads of Peterborough I wasn't prepared for the lenghty up and downhill running at Loch Ness which took its toll on my knees and slowed me down to a crawl along the route.   By the 24 mile mark I thought my race had been run as my brain simply wanted me to sit down on the nearest bench but thankfully my legs overruled my brain and kept me upright and moving forward.  At 25 miles my blood sugar levels crashed as all I had eaten that day had been a pot of porridge and a couple of energy bars and gels.  My stomach was empty and my legs turned to jelly as I staggered along the roads of Inverness like a drunk.  People tried to cheer me forward and a couple of guys offered to help walk me to the finish line which was still some 1/2 mile away, I thanked them but refused as I wanted to finish under my own steam even if that meant crawlling over the finish line on my knees!     Digging deep both physically and mentally I put in one last push and sprinted over the finish line in a time of 7 hours 16 minutes.  Whilst I was disappointed to have missed my projected time by 25 minutes the fact I made it and finished was definitely an achievement for my first marathon and not an easy one.   I later met a couple of guys at the airport and although both were in their 30's and had run London Marathon and others in around 4 hours, one of them was forced to quit at 21 miles and didn't finish - clearly the hilly terrain took its toll on him and many others as of the 4000 starters only 2800 finished.  Like I said I was delighted to have taken on such a Herculean task and completed it - as my post race video details.
Careful not to get too carried away as I still have a 1/2 marathon to run in 2 weeks time in Peterborough.        


Brotherly Love

Also during 2017 I became involved in a personal project, to help my eldest brother tackle his own obesity issues.  Whilst he is 3 years older than me and has a taller broader frame his weight has over the year ballooned to around 26.5 stone putting him at grave risk of illness and death.  He would be the first to admit much of this is down to a sedenatry lifestyle coupled in his case with a heavy reliance on alcohol, spirits and beer in large quantities on a daily basis.  In 2016 I had tried to use my own example to help him and at one point I thought I'd got through to him and he was on the cusp of gastric band surgery when he changed his mind.  Sadly not everyone around him is as concerned for his health, and were quick to round on him with messages of YOLO and eat, drink and be merry, and they convinced him otherwise.  These people are not obese and so they don't know what its like but their lifestyles will catch up with them, after all its not just fat people who die prematurely!   In early 2017 as he complained about severe hip pain, higher blood pressure I once again suggested he re-visit the idea of surgery to help him lose weight and I said that if invasive and permanent surgery wasn't for him then how about a gastric balloon.  This was a short term non-invasive procedure where a balloon would be inserted into his stomach through the mouth under local anaesthetic and then the balloon filled with saline so as to reduce the size of the stomach and the amount he therefore could eat.  I seeded the idea and was amazed when a few months later he said he had looked into it and better still had signed up for the procedure.  I accompanied him to the hospital where the procedure took less than 20 minutes and we headed home.  He went through a very rough time with lots of nausea and vomiting mainly because of his body reacting to him giving up alcohol - he was basically going cold turkey.  Over the months things settled down and during a 6 month period he has lost around 5 stone.   His weight loss has helped him go to the gym more often and if he keeps the balloon in for the 12 months as planned I am confident he could lose around 7 to 8 stone and get his weight down to around 18 stone.   He is already cured of his sleep aponea and so now doesn't need to wear a mask to sleep and his doses of medications are down he even looks smarter wearing better fitting clothes.   I hope he continues and forms good habits so that when he has the balloon removed he doesnt resort back to his old drink, food and sitting around lifestyle the cynics will no doubt want him to adopt.   If in some small way I have helped a loved one as I have helped total strangers then this will have been well worth it as a personal side project.


A new less physically demanding project to keep me occupied - video killed the radio star!

In addition to the physical challenges around weightloss and health I have another project in 2017 that I am hoping will come to fruition.  In July 2017 I was invited onto the Sikh Channel Breakfast Show to talk about tackling obesity and my own story.  The show went well and there was lots of follow up interest, but post show I met with and got talking to the Channel's Management Team and as we spoke about the channel reaching out to a bigger and more diverse audience the idea of an English language chat show was mooted by both them and by me.   Long story short they said they needed a presenter for this kind of project and ideally someone confident, articulate and with a good sense of humour, and I was asked if I was interested?   Flattered by their high opinion of me after just a brief meeting I accepted.   In agreeing to do the show I said I wanted a free hand in creating the format and booking the guests, and with this sorted I went away to work on some ideas.  After a month away mulling over ideas I met with the Channel Controller and others once again and ran through my ideas with them for a late night chat show initalling starting with me interviewing high profile and influential Sikhs but in the fullness of time interviewing non-Sikhs too.   One of the key tenents of the show was to reach a younger Sikh audience that may not be as fluent in the Punjabi language and also a non-Sikh audience, and so the show would be an English language show designed to show inspirational people in a positive light.  Wanting purposely to move away from the usual very serious interviews and debates on the channel I suggested a more light entertainment based show where I was literally enjoying some chat and banter with the guests in a more light hearted way, and so "Late Night Banter with Del Singh" was born.    

​I began the process of indentifying guests and setting up interviews during October and once we have 8 shows recorded we can begin editing and the plan is to start airing the shows on a weekly basis starting in November 2017 on The Sikh Channel - Sky 840, as well as on The Sikh Channel's Facebook Page and on YouTube also - I will add links via this website in due course.   I am especially excited about this project as it allowing me to meet some amazing and inspirational people and bring them to the attention of others.  Plus it is a great vehicle that I can put my own indvidual humour into and my own personal stamp on - let's face it who wouldn't want their own TV show!
  
















In conclusion


This is probably not the right title for this section as I don't think there is a conclusion as what I have gone through and will continue to go through is an on- going process in that good health and looking after yourself never stops.

I often get asked if I have any regrets as a result of my gastric surgery, and I guess those asking the questions are waiting for me to say that I miss eating "proper" food and drinking without having to think about it, or the whole thing was really painful and I should never have done it.   Well the truth of the matter is that I have no regrets whatsoever about my surgery, I do not miss eating huge quantities of food and drinking copious amounts of alcohol.   I actually enjoy the small amounts of food I eat these days and appreciate what I eat more than I used to.   Yes the surgery was painful and not without some complication in my case, but the team at Gateway Healthcare looked after me and my family helped me massively afterwards too.
  
If I was to have any regret it is that I failed to look after myself and neglected my health for a period of around 20 years and maybe if I had done more at a younger age then maybe I wouldn't have had to consider gastric surgery in my 50's.   I am pleased that my eldest son who is in his early 20's is looking after his body and watches his diet and goes to the gym regularly, I would ask him to continue with this discipline post university and when he starts work.
Would I advise others to have gastric surgery?    I guess I would ask them to look at their age, lifestyle and health, and if they can lose weight and improve their personal life through dieting and exercise then try this first.  But if like me they have tried these options and do not have the will power or cannot see themselves losing a large amount of weight quickly then it is worth considering gastric surgery.   In doing this take medical advice starting with your own doctor and discuss the matter with your partner and or family too.   Also do as much reasearch as you can into gastric surgery options and talk to people who have actually had it as opposed to people who have read the good or bad in dodgy celebrity magazines and tabloid newspapers.
   
Finally if there is anything I haven't covered on this website or my videos then please email me and I will be happy to give you an answer, assumming it is something I know something about.